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About Me
- Ralph F. Couey
- Pearl City, HI, United States
- Husband, father, grandfather, friend...a few of the roles acquired in 69 years of living. I keep an upbeat attitude, loving humor, and the singular freedom of a perfect laugh. I don't let curmudgeons ruin my day; that only gives them power over me. Having experienced death once, I no longer fear it, although I am still frightened by the process of dying. I love to write because it allows me the freedom to vent those complex feelings that bounce restlessly off the walls of my mind and express the beauty that can only be found within the human heart.
Friday, September 05, 2025
The Final Muster
Monday, September 01, 2025
Being Pet Parents Again
Monday, August 11, 2025
Visitors From Beyond
Thursday, July 31, 2025
The Earth Quakes, A Wave Breaks
Friday, July 25, 2025
The Day War Ended
Eighty years ago today, on September 2, 1945, a ceremony
took place in Tokyo Bay, Japan. Aboard the anchored battleship USS Missouri,
representatives of the Imperial Japanese government and military signed a set
of documents certifying their acceptance of the terms of surrender. With that
act, the world, which had been at war in some form or another since 1931,
finally found peace. Humanity, in an all-too-rare moment, was able to look
toward the future with hope.
Peace is fleeting, as history has shown over and over.
Humans have never had to search far for a reason to fight. Starting a war is
much easier than ending one. Still, we cherish those rare moments because peace
gives us a chance to breathe, to live, love, and dream.
War is terrible, destructive, and costly. Novelist John Ball noted that the only reason
a sane government gets involved in one is because the alternative is even less
acceptable. The United States, which had
avoided global power and responsibility like the plague, was forced to accept
that role in the world by two nations, Japan and Germany, which lusted after it. We learned a hard lesson: that if we try to
hide from the world, the world will come looking for us. And the rest of the world also learned that
an America, thus armed, united, and engaged, is unassailable.
Sunday, June 08, 2025
"How Terribly Strange to be Seventy"
Tuesday, April 29, 2025
Speech: Preserving the Past, Gifting it to the Future
Good Evening,
On behalf of the USS Missouri Memorial Association, I want to welcome you and express our sincere and heartfelt gratitude for the many ways you continue to support Battleship Missouri and its programs.
My name is Ralph Couey. I am a tour guide and a former crew member of Missouri, serving from 1988 to 1990, the last two years of my Navy career. I was a Chief Petty Officer in charge of Combat Engagement Center and the 65 good men who worked there. As you might expect, many memories lurk among the passageways and compartments, ready to ambush me unexpectedly. I can tell you that the first day I came back aboard to work here was an emotional experience. I remember entering the ship's interior, being enveloped by that familiar scent of steel, paint, and fuel oil, and knowing I had returned home.
Since that day, I’ve had nothing but fun, and I am so pleased and proud to work with such a great crew. I am hard-pressed to remember when I’ve been around a happier, more caring group of people.
There are many memorials in the United States, touchstones of times of challenge and adversity, times that demanded from each of us our best efforts, passions, courage, and, most importantly, our unity. These places are where we can return to those moments and eras that molded us both as a nation and a people. It is good that those events can still inspire us because it is so vital that we remember our past. We must honor those who went before, stood up to the dangers, and did the arduous work that brought us to this day. Their stories, those accounts we need to tell and re-tell again.
Memory is fickle. Time has a way of softening details and changing perceptions. For a given event in history, there are two groups of people: those who remember and those who learn. We who were around and cogent on that terrible day we know as 9/11 have strong memories of that tragedy, driven by shock, sorrow, and, yes, rage. We watched, most on television, some who were present as those aircraft knifed into both buildings of the World Trade Center. We learned about the attack on the Pentagon and watched with disbelieving eyes as that great concrete battleship burned. We heard about Flight 93 and the heroism of those passengers and crew who sacrificed their lives and prevented an even larger tragedy. That day unfolded before us as no day ever had, burned into our memories. We remember what we were doing, how we found out, how we felt, and what we feared.
Speech: A Look to the Past, a Charge to the Future
On
December 7th, 1941, at 7:55 AM, the quiet calm of a Sunday morning
was shattered by explosions and the hoarse sound of general quarters alarms.
In
the first few minutes of the attack, hundreds of American Sailors, Soldiers,
and Marines had already lost their lives.
This was the tragedy. Then came
the triumph. The personnel aboard the
ships did not wait for orders but rather reacted in accordance with their
training and, in those same first few moments, filled the sky with
anti-aircraft bursts. It is important to
note that most of them were barely older than these magnificent student musicians
here.
The
war that began with that attack lasted 3 years and 10 months, during which time
some 69 million people lost their lives.
Then,
on September 2nd, 1945, USS Missouri was anchored in Tokyo Bay,
Japan. The destroyer USS Lansdowne
brought a delegation of Japan’s representatives alongside. Among them was the Foreign Minister Mamoru
Shigamitsu. For years, he led the
peace faction within Japan’s government.
This did not make him popular with the hard-liners, who wanted to fight
to the last man and the last bullet. Mr.
Shigamitsu was targeted several times for assassination. One of those attempts cost him his right
leg. It was painfully difficult for him
to have to climb down the side of a destroyer, then climb up the side of this
battleship, and then up an additional ladder in order to arrive on the
starboard side 01 level where the ceremony would take place. I also know that when someone risks their
life several times in the cause of peace, that by definition makes him a tough
guy.
Speech: Time to Lead
There
is a story about a young Marine who won a medal for fearlessly charging an
enemy position. He was asked later how
he summoned the courage for such an act.
He replied, “I wasn’t running toward the enemy. I was running away from my sergeant.”
When
someone joins the military, it can be an unsettling experience. It’s an entirely new and alien
environment. They are rarely sure what
to do or when to do it. In those
moments, they look for help, direction, and assurance. The person they always look to is the one
with all the stripes. There, they will
find knowledge, wisdom, experience, encouragement, and the occasional kick in
the ass. That person is the
Non-Commissioned Officer. That leavening
influence in a unit is essential in the day-to-day of peacetime. It is absolutely critical in war.
It
takes someone special to be a soldier, and it takes something rare to lead
them. The roles of a Staff Sergeant are many and varied. They include training,
administration, instruction, counseling, discipline, and being the subject
matter expert on being a soldier. But
beyond those roles is leadership.
Soldiers
want and need to be led, whether they realize it or not. No matter how confident a soldier is, the
acquisition of experience takes time.
That requires the steadying influence of the “been there, done that”
NCO. Therefore, all NCOs are responsible
for teaching not only the technical aspects of this profession of arms but also
the value of discipline. In battle,
that discipline will keep a young soldier on the line. And alive.
However,
the most important things that an NCO can impart to the troops are the more
profound lessons of courage, honor, integrity, and commitment. These are the most important reasons for
wearing the uniform.
An
NCO helps soldiers grow as they respond to the challenges they face. To confront adversity, rather than turning
away. To learn what it takes to become a
leader. To find within themselves the
power and strength to stand their ground.
This was always for me, as a Chief Petty Officer, the most satisfying
and fulfilling aspect of my job, taking a raw, nervous, inexperienced kid and
watching them become a strong, confident, and skilled fighting sailor. I’m sure many of you standing here also
remember and treasure those moments in your careers.
Admiral
Mike Boorda, a Mustang who rose to the position of Chief of Naval Operations,
once told a group of Chief Petty Officers, “I may run the Navy. But I assure you, the Navy runs because of
you.” This is an undeniable finite truth
that applies to all the armed services.
All the great things the Army has ever done were because the Sergeants
made it happen. You are where the rubber
meets the road. Where battles are won…or
lost.
This
country will likely find itself in another war in the coming years. If that happens, you will be at the tip of
the spear. Know that the outcome of any
battle is absolutely dependent on all of you doing your duty. And on the sergeants to lead the way. But wherever you give battle, make sure that
the enemy knows that field belongs to the United States Army.
Sergeants,
your time is now. Step up. Stand tall. And lead.
Re-learning How to Love -- And Trust Again.
Monday, February 17, 2025
That Day...And What's Coming Next
Saturday, February 08, 2025
The Cost That Must Be Paid for Freedom
Freedom is not free.
This statement has become timeworn, perhaps even trite. But its use, perhaps overuse, hasn’t diminished the fact that it is still fundamentally true.
In what was then colonial America, a group of restless idealists decided that after decades of mistreatment by Britain, enough was enough. After countless hours of fractious, even combative debate, they published their intent to break from the Crown and form a new country.
This was an incredibly bold and courageous move against what was then the most powerful empire on Earth. They were, in fact, committing treason, the punishment for which was death. Also at risk were their families, homes, and everything they had earned and built. The risk was enormous, but they did not hesitate.
The war resulting from that Declaration of Independence was long, brutal, and costly. The army suffered bitter cold, hunger, and sickness. Desertions were common. The war was almost lost on several occasions but for the dynamic presence of a Virginia planter, George Washington. His inestimable leadership, strength, and tactical brilliance kept the army together and allowed him to execute a series of bold, brilliant attacks that eventually drove the British out of America.
Even after such an improbable victory, the internal struggles continued. What kind of government would it be? A republic with a strong central government and subordinate states? Or a confederacy characterized by a weak central authority and autonomous states? Some of these questions were addressed in the Constitution, which required 13 more years of arguing. Other questions would take a costly Civil War to find the answers.